Sleeping With Friends
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I have a lot of gay friends, a lot of male gay friends, and a lot of really cute gay male friends. I’d say I’ve slept with 75 percent of them. When I tell my female friends about that statistic, they think I’m nuts (no pun intended). For whatever reason, they don’t understand how I could stick my dick up a man’s ass and then hang out with him the next day, looking for cute guys.
To be honest, I don’t know how I can’t. If a guy is cute, so what if he’s your friend? Everyone’s heard the expression “The Gay Handshake,” which is true. I also think there’s more to the story. Unlike heterosexual society, where it’s taboo to sleep with a friend of the opposite sex unless a romance is brewing or you never expect to see them again, gay men don’t have that rule—everything we do is taboo. I’m sure if it were accepted in society, straight men and women would fuck each other all the time, then stay friends. They might even become better friends.
To be honest, many of the gay friends I’ve slept with started out as dates or tricks. For whatever reason, it didn’t work out but we liked each other. I only have one friend now who I sleep with on a regular basis. But our friendship was always about sex. If we go out for drinks, we have sex first. If we go see a show, we have sex first. If his boyfriend comes over, we all have sex. We’re not afraid to talk about it, and we have a great friendship outside of that.
But if a guy’s hot, can you blame me? Sometimes I go out with my friends and think, damn, screw other guys; we should just go back and have sex. We already know each other, we don’t have to make stupid conversation afterward or invite the other to spend the night. Not all of my friends feel the same way, and some have told me they regret having slept with me. They say it sometimes makes them feel weird, and then they ask that I never tell anyone. (For the record, I never do.)
The way I see it, enjoy sex. If you can’t find a lover, find a friend. Kiss, suck, do whatever you like. And let him know, sexually, what his friendship means to you. It can still be an expression of love.
-David
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